Posted on May 4, 2010 - by Denis
What is a useful perspective on depression?
Depression is nothing to worry about… except if you worry about it, then that starts becoming worth worrying about it, because that’s the only way to get into trouble with it 
But actually it’s just a sign that in some life area we’re quite a bit off the path and here’s our friend, Ms. Depression, knocking at our door to let us know about that. That’s it, no more, no less. Adjust your path, then the depression no longer serves a purpose and just drops. Nothing to worry about, just a useful notification mechanism.
Listen to that friend knocking on your door, ask her a few questions about the potential causes and then focus – with Love, Joy, Fun, Passion, Excitement! – on the solutions you come up with through the faculty of your creative imagination. Happy overcoming depression!
Love,
Denis
ps. And yes… ignore her and she’ll kick your butt, she really knows how to make you feel so bad that eventually you’ll listen whether you want to or not. But she starts knocking gently at first and is one of the kindest companions you have on your path through life, guiding and supporting you. Love her and you’ll learn the most from her!
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May 4, 2010
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Andrew said:
So true
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May 17, 2010
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Jack Christopher said:
Recently got depressed *after* the most major life adjustment in 5 years. Now my future vision is the “opposite” of what it was before.
Really confusing. I’m OK now…I *think*.
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May 20, 2010
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Denis said:
Jack, that’s not uncommon. Sometimes we experience this thing we call “depression” when life or our clarity about it and our goals and purpose and whatnot takes a turn upwards because then we have to make physical changes in our lives, in our external reality in order to live out whatever super positive thing we just figured out.
Just acknowledge that the feeling tells you your outer world needs to transform, then relax and get started making small changes, taking small actions on whatever more or less inspiring and newly aligned ideas you get
You should take advantage of a free coaching session with me, mate. I’ve been through quite a few of the things you describe and to help you out there I probably don’t even need my intuitive superpowers, hehe
And just in case your mind suggest something like the following… no, if I were to coach you, that wouldn’t mean I’m better or further on my path or whatever – we just have different challenges at this moment and I’ve been through some of those you experience right now and vice versa. If that would excite you you could also coach me on other things I’m pretty sure 
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May 20, 2010
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Jack Christopher said:
Denis, I admit to that thought when you started coaching. But I quickly dustbinned it. The word “lifecoach” bugged me. Still does. We already “coach” each other. But I trust you intentions. So lets coach us.
I’m unsure if I’d coach explicitly. I’m focused on community building. I need to figure how to do that and live.
We’ll talk about that.
Thanks.
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May 21, 2010
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Denis said:
Yeah, I’m also not too happy with “Life Coach(ing)” and all that stuff. It sounds like the other person needs to be coached, otherwise their life is wrong or stupid or doesn’t work or whatever — which I totally don’t believe in and it’s the opposite of my perspective on the process of “coaching” itself. If you have suggestions for whatever term I could use instead, please share
Of course we already coach each other in every single interaction. And sometimes I just enjoy coaching explicitly, for me that just means a deeper conversation in which the other is explicitly interested in and asking for feedback, ideas, suggestions and has a desire to change something, whatever that may be. Sometimes that can be really powerful and do things that just written, somewhat “uncommitted” communication cannot do.
Don’t feel like you have to do anything just because I’m being quite insistent and persistent in offering you something. I just get my hunches and enjoy following and expressing them, but most certainly nobody should be pressured by that into something they don’t fully want and embrace
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May 22, 2010
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Jack Christopher said:
*Derail tread!*
Eliminate “life coach” or any label. Phrasify yourself. Describe what you *do to* others: I help awaken your inner guidance…or something.
Use E-Primitive— http://www.urbanscout.org/e-primitive-rewilding-the-english-language/index.html —I used it implicitly for a while. It de-nouns.
Anyway, free coach me. We’ll talk soon. I’ll email. Thanks.